You may be in a monogamous relationship that once felt close and connected—but now feels marked by misunderstandings, emotional distance, or waning intimacy. In couples therapy, we’ll work together to uncover what’s shifted, build healthier communication, and restore the emotional safety and trust that support long-term connection.
Sometimes, we look back and notice a moment—or a series of moments—when something within us shifted. Perhaps it was an abusive relationship, a distressing event  that resulted in the loss of safety or control, a breach of trust in ourselves or others, or the first time we felt the deep ache of rejection or abandonment. For some, this shift is tied to a specific traumatic event, often leading to symptoms associated with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), such as panic, flashbacks, nightmares, or emotional overwhelm.
For others, the experience is more gradual and chronic—what we now understand as complex PTSD (cPTSD). Rather than one defining event, it may have been an ongoing environment marked by fear, emotional unpredictability, unmet needs, or a lack of secure connection. In these circumstances, the impact often shows up in quieter, yet deeply rooted ways—through people-pleasing, persistent guilt or shame, difficulties with boundaries, or feeling disconnected from your own identity and needs.
You might notice yourself repeating the same painful relationship patterns and wondering, “What’s wrong with me?” or “Why do people always leave?” These questions often stem from deep attachment wounds—early experiences that taught you love might not be safe, consistent, or earned without self-sacrifice. Maybe you’ve learned to rely only on yourself because others have let you down, leaving you fiercely independent but emotionally guarded. Or perhaps you try to express your needs and set boundaries, but still find yourself feeling dismissed, disrespected, or taken advantage of. These patterns aren’t signs of something wrong with you—they’re signs of what you’ve had to adapt to. 
While the death of a loved one or pet often brings clear and profound grief, it's important to recognize that grief also emerges in less obvious but equally valid ways. My clients frequently report experiencing symptoms of grief—such as sadness, anger, or denial—not only from tangible losses, but in relation to unmet needs from childhood, identity shifts, or emotional wounds from the past. Life transitions like dropping out of school, ending toxic family patterns, entering or exiting relationships, or changing careers can provoke significant emotional disruption as well. These moments often challenge a person’s sense of identity, safety, and control, bringing unexpected emotional complexity to the surface.
We all carry younger parts of ourselves—versions shaped by early experiences, limited understanding, and unmet needs. These parts often hold big emotions like fear, anger, shame, or sadness, and in times of stress, they can take over, pulling us into old patterns of survival that no longer serve us. As illustrated in Inside Out, our internal world is made up of many emotional voices, each vying for space and safety. When these parts are in the “driver’s seat,” it can feel like we’re disconnected from our values, our logic, or our sense of self. But healing is possible. Through gentle introspection, self-compassion, and a willingness to connect with these younger parts, we can begin to reparent ourselves—offering the safety, guidance, and care we may not have received. Over time, this work fosters emotional regulation, resilience, and a deeper sense of self-trust. It also lays the foundation for a secure internal attachment—one that becomes a powerful model for how we deserve to be treated in our relationships with others.
If you’ve lived through a traumatic experience, you may find that certain images, painful words, or intense emotions still resurface—sometimes unexpectedly—leaving you feeling stuck in the past, even though the event may have happened years ago. This occurs because your emotional brain can get caught in a loop, unable to fully process or make sense of what occurred. Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) offers a way to gently interrupt that cycle. Through techniques like bilateral stimulation, guided imagery, and focused breathing, ART helps you replace distressing images with more empowering ones, release the emotional intensity tied to the memory, and reshape your internal narrative—fostering a renewed sense of safety, clarity, and control.
Together, we will gain insight regarding your specific trauma patterns by first bringing awareness to your physical emotions and sensations, internal narratives, behavior patterns, and unmet needs. Then, I will support and guide you through the process of connecting with and validating your emotions and pain, recognizing that unhealthy patterns of behavior have helped keep you safe but are likely holding you back from healthy growth and development now. Then, we will identify your needs and values and explore new patterns of behavior to help you live the sustainable life you deserve.